I found pages and pages to be saying things that I (and I think most eager feminists in their 20s) would have thought about already, but then again, this book has a very broad target audience! Some sloppiness in exchange for a book that may be more appealing to a wider audience is not the worst thing.

kitabın kendisine gelirsek, ben sevgi arayışı, sevginin ne olduğu/olmadığı, neden inatla bu kadar önemli olduğu konusunda bu kadar düşünmemiştim. I would def recommend people read this but I’m excited to read All About Love bc I think that’s the one everyone really loves. I really didn't like her ongoing reflections about an event in her life, making her seem like she has changed and learned something valuable, but she never tells us about the event itself, just her current feelings. Lesbianism, Hook claims, is a possible way to obtain healthy love and, hence, find one’s actual being.

I appreciate her insistence that men and women are not from different planets and the commitment she shows towards the disparaging holds of "gender differences. hooks' treatise on love is passionate and positive, and goes a long way to build up strength and determination in readers. And while most of the platitudes held true for me personally, I don't expect they'll hold true for all women. By that I mean that an individual woman may not like her looks, her weight, but ceases trying to change herself so that she no longer confroms to conventional sexist aesthetic standards, because to do so lessens her anxiety and stress. we can’t embody and give love if we are picking and choosing in which specific ways we are self loving.

hooks says that most women only start to really excel at the art of love in midlife, and this has been my experience; only now am I really learning to love myself, and to approach all relationships with an open heart and a deep commitment to acting at all times with care, respect, and responsibility. The rise in sexual sadomasochism both in everyday life and in our intimate lives seems to be a direct response to the unresolved changes in the nature of gender roles, the fact that so much gender equality exists in the context of the same old oppressive patriarchy. Primarily through a postmodern female perspective, she addressed race, class, and gender in education, art, history, sexuality, mass media and feminism. A lot of people react to the statements in this book, and others like it, by yelling things like, "Not all men!Hooks presents the idea of love being an individualized feature that exudes out only when there is overflow. We have changed our ways of thinking about aging and we have changed our ways of thinking about love. hooks agrees with Fromm that love is an art form, "an action informed by care, respect, knowledge, and responsibility. I don't know a whole lot about feminist theory, but what I learned about it here I found fascinating.

I found the chapter/s on older generations to be particularly insightful and useful for me, as I reflect on my parents’ marriage. Celebrated as one of our nation's leading public intellectual by The Atlantic Monthly, as well as one of Utne Reader's 100 Visionaries Who Could Change Your Life, she is a charismatic speaker who divides her time among teaching, writing, and lecturing around the world. Celebrated as one of our nation's leading public intellectual by The Atlantic Monthly, as well as one of Utne Reader's "100 Visionaries Who Could Change Your Life," she is a charismatic speaker who divides her time among teaching, writing, and lecturing around the world. Females easily endorse a mind-body split that lets us cultivate the false assumption that we can hate our bodies and still be loving…the culture lets us get away with thinking that we can hate our bodies and still be seen as the group most capable of teaching others about love.

It takes courage for women to challenge the seduction of domination, the making of Love synonymous with erotic conflict between the powerful and the powerless. she did bash on patriarchal men a lot (love) but she never blamed men or suggested that women were the victim.